Tuesday, December 18, 2007

Thing you should never say to a very pregnant woman!

As I near the end of my pregnancy, I've taken some time to reflect... and I've come up with a list of grossly insensitive things that you (yes, YOU...husband, friend, sister, brother, random person standing next to a pregnant woman on the subway) should never say to a very pregnant woman. So future fathers, uncles, cousins...take note (and yes, several of these things have actually been said to me! And I'm pretty petite as far as full-term pregnant woman go):

1. Weren’t you wearing that yesterday? (Also see: Don’t you have anything else to wear?)
2. Wow, look at that, your belly button is popping out!
3. Wow, you’re really getting big!
4. Is something wrong with your face or is it normally that swollen?
5. Do you need help with those dishes (said unenthusiastically)?
6. Boy your house is a mess.
7. Didn’t you just go to the bathroom?
8. You think you can’t sleep now, wait till the baby arrives!


Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey laila,


3 days before my due date the wife of one of rami's friends looks at me in disgust and says "Wow, your nose looks huge!"

I was going to die...I bit my tongue since she was also pregnant- Waited til she was about to deliver and her nose got super-swollen...then said...NOTHING...i didnt have the gall to be that insensitive...

i also hated hearing...."are you supposed to be eating that?"..and "you know they really don't mean eat for two"

arghhh, i feel for you, good luck with the delivery, Allah ma-aki iw tiwsali bil salami, take care, danya

5:23 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you should be thankful that you have people who help you out.

6:33 AM  
Blogger Marcel Dubois said...

If number 5 was said enthusiastically, would it be ok ?

Number 8 seems like the perfect downer.

7:01 AM  
Blogger jarvenpa said...

There's also "are you sure you aren't having twins?" and graphic warnings about labor (plus stories of so and so, the cousin who....with more detail than anyone should have to know).
And do you get the "let me feel your belly" stuff? Sometimes people didn't bother to ask. Hey you, hands off my body, please!
I hope you have a very easy labor and a safe birth for both you and your new little one. Your son will make a great big brother.

10:14 AM  
Blogger Cakes said...

ohhhh! Those are the worst! Take Care. Not much longer.

12:44 PM  
Blogger JohnB said...

While I look back with little fondness on my marriage to my ex-wife, somehow God allowed me to experience the joy of having two children (both boys) who are growing into fine young men.

I take a great deal of pride when someone tells me what polite, well-spoken people they are. I only wish that we could say that about more young men and women!

Anyway, both my ex and I just could not understand why so many people think that they should "rub your tummy for luck." I can't tell you how many times random people would just strike up a conversation and without asking, just pat my ex's tummy.

I hope, Laila, that the rest of your pregnancy is peaceful and the delivery is trouble free for both you and the baby.

As far as housework: treasure the children now. Focus on them now. They grow up so quickly - mine are 21 and 16 and I wonder just where the time went! You can houseclean when they are grown!

InshaAllah, I hope you and your husband enjoy and cherish them now and always.



1:55 PM  
Blogger Julie said...

I think it's things like that that scare me away from having a baby. People can be so insensitive. I've been married for almost three years and I'm starting to get questioned about why I'm not pregnant yet. We're not trying, and don't plan to be for a while do to finances. Would they like to pay my mortgage??

9:25 PM  
Blogger UmmFarouq said...

Congratulations on almost nearing the end of your pregnancy, may Allah make it easy on you and bring you a healthy child, inshaAllah.

Also, may congrats on the Brass Crescent Award, you deserved it!

10:40 PM  
Blogger Laila said...

thanks everyone!

Well number 5 is sarcastic-my point is, do you even have to ask if I need help with the dishes, especially at that point in the pregnancy when I can barely stand up for 5 consecutive minutes! :)

But anyway, its all in good fun of course, I don't think I'm a very spoiled pregnant person...have endured far worse when I was pregnant with Yousuf and prancing around Gaza north to south covering the second Intifada in its height.

5:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I wish you a great blessed sweet and lovely moment for the birth of your daughter. I've four children and I felt the same just like you :))) The last days are terrible and the-not-pregnant-ones can't understand how to be gentle and polite...

Fátima (from Portugal)

2:05 PM  
Blogger desertmom said...

Oh this list reminds me when I was pregnant with my son. One more could be, atleast I got it in my last two months - 'didnt you just have your dinner'...
Aaaagghhhhh excuse me!!!, I am hungry or more like the baby is , so let me eaatttt!!!
InshaAllah, you will have an easy and safe delivery......

1:25 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

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7:03 AM  

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